People who are married or in committed relationships are healthier, wealthier, and happier. So why do more than 60 percent of marriages end in divorce Why has the national divorce rate climbed more than 200 percent in the last thirty years And why are fewer people getting married today than ever before
The answers to these questions are plentiful, but the main reason is . It’s easy to "fall" in love, but very few people know how to stay in love. Even though staying in love is our "smartest" choice all the way around! Recent studies on marriage prove it’s one of the major ingredients in life-long success for men and women. "It lengthens life, substantially boosts physical and emotional health, and raises income over that of single or divorced people or those who live together," reported an article in the New York Times. Marriage has also been found to boost happiness, reduce the degree of depression, and provide protection from ually transmitted diseases.
So let’s wake up, make up, and turn this trend around! One of the most startling pieces of evidence that shows people are not in touch with what’s really going on in their partnerships is the fact that the majority of people who file for divorce say they didn’t think there was a relationship-threatening problem just six months prior to breaking up. Another shocker is that most couples wait six years or more to seek professional help when their relationship is in er. By the time they do wake up and smell the coffee, it’s often too late.
Truly there is no reason to resign yourself to a bad relationship whether you’re dating or married. Rather than changing partners and ending up this same predicament (困境) again, you can learn to have a fabulous relationship with the partner you already have! I strongly encourage you to make the relationship you have worked, because there is a higher rate of divorce and ery (通奸) in second marriages.
Getting rid of your partner does not get rid of the problem, because half of the "problem" is yours. You can walk out of your marriage, but you can’t run away from yourself, no matter how hard you try! Rather than blaming each other, couples can learn how to work as a team and coach each other through the troubled times and power struggles. To do this, you must create a "safe" relationship so you can express your needs and fears and effectively resolve anger and conflict. More relationships break up because people don’t know how to validate (验证) each other than for any other reason. This is truly a shame, because the skills for "fighting fair" are very easy to with just a little practice and patience.
What does the sentence "By the time they do wake up and smell the coffee, it’s often too late" (Paragraph 3) imply