The statement that 'Love is blind' is all too true. People in love need to depend on others to help them separate their idealization of who they think their lover is from the reality of who their counterpart(对方) really is. That is one reason why I don't advise Internet dating since it is very difficult to get realistic impressions of supposed Internet counterparts. Sadly, students have told me that as soon as people finally reach the point of marriage, 'true love dies'. I disagree. It is not the end of true love, but the beginning of realistic love. I have been married for 21 years in a cross-cultural marriage. Despite the difficulties of such marriage, I love my wife now more than ever before. But that does not mean my emotions are always the same as when I first fell in love. As a matter of fact, love is more than emotion; it's both a decision and a commitment(承诺，奉献). True love must include a self sacrificial(自我牺牲的) commitment to always work for another person's good. I like to think that falling in love is like a match lighting a candle. It can start a love relationship. But it doesn't 'hold a candle' to the true lifelong realistic commitment that makes true love last for life. Unlike a candle, true love will not grow tired and ually bum out, but will grow ever deeper throughout a lifetime. People in love usually can't ______ their idealization of their lover from the reality.